Sometimes you simply feel anger and discomfort in the wind--it's a very different feeling than the utter joy and happiness that sometimes surrounds us. When I feel the cold wind of anger and discomfort, my immediate reaction is to wonder if I did something to cause that uncomfortable weather. I usually reflect on related events, and then when I figure out or not figure out what's causing the chill, I then determine how I'll prepare and react if a storm should rage.
Recently I experienced this bad weather, and after reflecting on why it might have happened, I released myself from the inevitable guilt and began to concentrate on my reactions. I wanted to react in a way that didn't fuel the storm, but instead gave space for better weather to come.
Of course, we sometimes may cause bad weather in our relations, but more often than not, those cloudy, stormy days are caused by events outside of our control. A person exuding unhappiness, discomfort, or anger may be facing poor health, a disappointment, dreams unmet, confusion, or other frustrating problems. Some people may have a good take on why they are troubled and others may have no clue and seek to blame people or the world around them for the discomfort. Whatever the reason, if it lies outside of your actions or attitudes, there's not much that you can do but listen and support in positive, doable ways.
So as I think of a storm I predict, my response will be to listen and say little. People often need their space and time to reflect and find their way, and more often than not, people have to figure this out for themselves. Rather than be preoccupied with the troubles of others, it's good to focus on your own life to ensure that your path matches the values you believe in, the dreams you seek, and the daily living you define as right and good. Onward.
