The have-to/want-to balance

 We all have a laundry list of things we have-to do in life; and we also have a list of things we want-to do. Sometimes the two match up perfectly, but often the lists are quite different. For example a top priority on the want-to list might be a vacation while the top item on the have-to list may be doing the laundry. When the want-to/have-to list is out of balance, you're usually less happy, but when there's a balance, happiness is usually found.