In a discussion with a friend this morning, the topic of errors, sadness, and loss came up. I mentioned regrets I have related to some past digressions. The troubles were not intentional, but troublesome nonetheless. I'm human and I'm imperfect. I noted to my friend that in some instances people were courageous enough to speak up to me and help me right my path, but in other instances, people stayed quiet which did no one any good. It's important so speak up if you notice something that is harmful or dangerous to people--speak up to help make the situation right.
Of course, when you speak up, you may face the fact that no one is listening, but if you don't speak up, no one will certainly hear the words or have the opportunity to make a bad decision, a good one instead. In hindsight, it took some repetition of bad choices to learn how to make a right choice in similar arenas. I regret the bad choices, but feel fortunate none were at a tremendously grave or purposeful level. We can look back to learn from our error, sadness, and loss, but we can't go back. Instead we have to focus on moving forward.
As I think of moving forward in the face of loss, I simply have to accept the loss and bring forth the good that the relationship or experience provided. For example, I do carry on many traditions of loved ones loss--that brings me warmth and peace as well as bringing forth their goodness to a new age. That's positive. As for errors and looking forward, I've learned a lot about how not to repeat some of those troubling errors from the past. I didn't know better then. I know better now. And for sadness, some sadness remains, but I've done all I could to put an end to that sadness, but in some situations, there remains a sad impasse and for that I feel bad, but I've tried to make peace and peace has not occurred in those instances yet.
Life is imperfect as our humans. We have to forge forth with our best understanding of what is right and good. We need to forgive ourselves and others for past error, and do our best to work together to create as much love, peace, and goodness as we can. Onward.
