A friend spoke to me with some very harsh words recently. I was deeply hurt since the comments referred to a deep and true part of who I am. I didn't respond to the harsh words since I knew my friend would not hear me at that point as my friend is dealing with her own issues right now, issues that leave little room to understand anyone else. I get that.
I've forgiven my friend for the harsh words as this is a good friend, and while hurtful, there is some truth to the harsh words. Will the words change my behavior? Maybe and maybe not since the words were a judgement on my character, and while that part of my character can be seen as negative, there is also a positive aspect of that part of my character. I don't think I'm ready to give up that part of who I am--time will tell.
I'm generally forgiving since I'm well aware of my own shortcomings, and I am pleased when people forgive me when I may hurt them. Onward.
