I recognize that unexpected events arise often, and those events upset the vision I have for the days ahead. Life is full of unexpected events, and one goal I have for myself is to better roll with the unexpected. How can I do that?
First, broaden the frame for my expectations. Instead of expecting people to be at a particular place at a particular time, broaden the vision to the hope of meeting up with loved ones when that works. That broader framework includes expectations that are more likely to be met than a very specific expectation.
Next, identify the sweet spots. Rather than expecting people to agree with you or join with you in every endeavor, seek the sweet spots, the events, people, places, and activities you share an interest in. For example, with some friends, the sweet spot is exchanging digital letters and notes, and for others it's getting together in real time to adventure.
And, make sure the most important aspects of life are planned for and strengthened so that unexpected events, for the most part, don't get in the way of those aspects of life. Keep the love strong between you and the people you love. Do that with loving words, actions, and care. Loose-tight expectations work in this regard which means giving people space to be themselves while letting them know you love them deeply and want them in your life.
Prioritize--don't spend a lot of time on activities that don't matter much to the bigger picture of life, but do make time for what matters most.
Make time to visualize your desired future. While that vision will never completely come true, knowing what you want and desire helps you to get there.
We can expect the unexpected, and we can prepare for it with the right mindset and efforts. Onward.
