Whenever a relationship hits a snag, it's good to consider the question: What is me; what is you; and what is us? Two people never share all of the same interests, desires, or needs; but generally if you are in a relationship of any kind it's because there's something you have in common.
Recently a relationship I generally enjoy hit a snag. I realized that it had been a long time since I considered what is me; what is you; and what is us? For several years, the "us" part of the relationship had resulted in more stress than positivity. Why? This made me consider the "us" more--what is it that we enjoy together, and why do we reach out towards one another time and again with little happy result.
As I considered this, I realized that we share a number of shared investments in people and efforts; and the great strength of our relationship is that we often cheer each other on. What's specifically me and what's specifically "you" are actually quite different and that's why it's likely that we don't spend a lot of time together engaging in similar activities. We have very different interests in general.
I want to consider the me, you, and us of relationships more often because when we recognize what we truly enjoy together that results in a strong and mutually positive relationship. Onward.
